Be Perfect

In my last post, Forgiveness in an Unforgiving World, I mentioned that God’s Kingdom isn’t about outside standards and expectations.  Now you may be wondering, what about holiness?  How does that work?  After all, isn’t holiness moral perfection?  If it isn’t about adhering to a list of do’s and don’ts, then what is God asking for?

“Be holy, because I am holy.”

 Everyone knows... nobody is perfect.  How can He demand perfection?

It is helpful to understand that holy is part of God’s nature, it is who He is.  Holiness also interacts with all of His other characteristics.  It’s what makes Him perfectly loving, perfectly forgiving, and perfectly understanding.

“Be holy, because I am holy.”

It is also helpful to understand that holiness is, in essence, conformity to God’s character.  He calls us to be like Him!  You may not be hearing the good news in this, but this is actually a huge relief!!

There are so many different words the Bible uses to explain how this is possible.  I have written that when we believe God for salvation, Jesus takes our judgement and hands us His nature.  Although the Bible talks about this spiritual exchange using many different verbiage, let’s stick with the new nature idea.  We now take part of divine nature (2 Peter 1:4).

Ok, here’s the good news... wait for it...  WE ARE HOLY BECAUSE HE IS HOLY!  We have God’s nature in us by the resurrection of Christ.  This is how God can look at us and call us righteous.  This is how we can come close to a holy God.  This is the reason we can be in a relationship with Him!

Good to know.  How is this good news for us today?  I’m so glad you asked!

Instead of trying, failing, trying again, failing again... there is a new way for those who are in Christ.  If we direct all our faculties- all our effort, thoughts, emotions, desires- toward God, He’ll reveal more of Himself in us.  Yes, if we put our energy into getting to know Him, see Him, and recognize Him in this world, we will naturally become more like Him.  As we get to know His heart, our heart becomes more like His.  As we learn to live more and more in His nature, meeting standards and expectations just comes naturally!

The world sets standards and expectations and demands conformity.  There is nothing wrong with standards.  Just as the standards of the Old Testament law are perfect, the standards and expectations in this world are potentially good.  Except when we feel we can’t meet them :(  

What is different for those who follow Christ is that our gaze is not on the standard.  We are focussing on God’s glory in us.  We are focussing on obeying the Holy Spirit.  We are concentrating on learning from God how to do our work.  Reaching the standard is simply a bi-product of who we are rather than an end for our effort.  In this way, a job well done is not measured by reaching the standard, but by our relationship to God.

The difference in perspective causes a change in motivation.  When we are focussed on earthly expectations, we can be self-motivated and relying on ourselves to reach the goal.  This is why it can be so difficult to take when we miss the mark.  Many have feelings of failure, shame and embarrassment.  These feelings are not coming from God, but due to our own pride and expectation.

When our focus is God in all that we do, holiness, excellence, and perfection are just a natural result.  Our expectation relies on God to be holy.  Pursuing holiness is pursuing a relationship with God.  As He reveals his nature and character, we become more like Him.  We naturally live out holiness.  

Forgiveness in an Unforgiving World

Let’s face it, the world’s system is that of external standards, measurement, and judgement.  It’s the way it works.  You either meet the teacher’s benchmarks or you fail the class.  You perform to a certain level or get cut from the team.  You meet your boss’s expectations or get fired.  It’s the way of the world and a system that works pretty well for it.

This worldly system has leached it’s way into the church.  So many see God as a taskmaster, cracking the whip when we aren’t performing to His expectations.  We are driven to do and say because we believe that is what is expected.  We judge mainly because we ourselves feel judged.  We measure others because we feel we are being measured.

God’s Kingdom doesn’t work like the world.  It’s an upside down and inside out way of living.  There isn’t something you can do or say to make Him love or save you.  There isn’t a set of rules to follow or a standard to meet.  You aren’t being measured and can’t get cut from the team.

So how do we live in this world when we are not of it?  When we constant “hear” judgement and condemnation, when we feel we are being measured and told we are unworthy, how do we live out God’s truth?  How do we walk in forgiveness and remain in His love?  How do we live in the world’s system without it damaging our soul?

There’s only one way.  By believing God more than our experience in the world.  When we feel unforgiven, run to God and receive forgiveness.  When we feel unworthy, run to God and receive our worth.  When we feel rejected, run to God and receive His acceptance.  It’s believing Him despite our circumstances, despite what the world is telling us to believe about ourself. 

Great News!

Whether you’ve heard it all your life or are hearing it for the first time, the gospel is a powerful message worthy of our careful attention and devotion.  It is a message we can’t get enough of; one that reveals a little more salvation every time we open our hearts to consume God’s Word.  Our minds are blown and our souls become freer.  Humor me, and let’s marinade together in the greatness of salvation available to all!  

Let’s begin with God.  He is loving, He is compassionate, and He is kind.  When Moses asked God to show him His glory, or His very nature and His heart, God proclaimed in Ex. 34:6, “The Lord! the Lord! a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abundant in loving-kindness and truth,”

Good news, right?  Oh! what a wonderful God He is, worthy of our praise and worship!

Did you notice the comma?  There is more that God proclaimed about himself!  “Keeping mercy and loving-kindness for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but Who will by no means clear the guilty. . .”  This is where the needle scratches the record and all men are silent.  The law comes forth.  The do’s and don’t’s, the rules and regulations, that thing we hate which makes us all cringe.  The law which so strongly makes sins known and places blame, guilt, judgement and shame.

It’s funny how we are.  We like to make life all about the law.  We obsess about this set of rules, or moral code, and constantly measure ourselves and others.  Some run in disgust, fed up with the guilt and blame they feel.  They think that if they just reject or ignore it, the feelings will go away.  Some embrace the law, and in their own effort “submit” and follow.  Some are really good at being good, yet still live under the judgement of the law. 

Actually, the law has little to do with the gospel.  The law is just there to make us realize we all carry sin.  The law points out our sins, something tangible we can see in reality.  And that is why God set it up!!  He wants us to see what He sees!  We all do bad things because it is our nature.  I write a lot about the flesh and this is what I’m talking about: everything in us that goes against the very nature of God.  There is absolutely nothing we can do about that, it’s been here since Adam and it’s here to stay until the end.

But there’s good news.

When we walk in our natural way, cross-grained against the nature of God, there is friction which causes a separation between us and God.  Think about when someone is offended.  There is a withdrawal and separation between friends because the offense is hanging in the middle.  Same thing with God.  He is holy and just.  We can’t go near him in our condition, in our old nature.

Ok, so here’s the good news.  “For God so loved the world He gave His only son, that who so ever believes in Him shall have eternal life.” John 3:16.

God sent Jesus to die for us.  Jesus takes the burden of our sins and crucifies it on the cross.  What do I mean by burden?  All that judgement, shame, guilt. . . yeah, that stuff that makes us so angry and offended by the law.  It’s gone.

I like that, sounds like good news, right?

Truly we are forgiven, but we still have a problem.  We still carry our old nature, or our flesh.  We see it daily when we do things we believe to be wrong.

Here’s where the great exchange takes place.  Not only did Jesus die on the cross and pay the price of our judgement, but God raised Him from the grave, giving us His life.  Jesus takes the weight of our sins and hands us His nature in exchange.  

I think this sounds like GREAT news!

We take on the the very nature of God when we believe Him for salvation.  This is eternal life, or new life in Christ.  We now have Jesus’s nature, and we can walk by God’s side.  When God looks at us, He sees His Son.  He’s looking at our new nature.

As plain and simple as it sounds, many of us haven’t even realized our new nature.  We talk about living in Him, or walking by the Spirit, but haven’t seen or experienced what that looks like in the reality of our own lives.  We need to learn to do life out of our renewed spirit, our new life, or in our new nature.  Through learning to walk by the Spirit, we learn how to come into relationship with God and do life with Him.

“But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh.” 

(Gal. 5:16)

While we can read all day about the differences of the old and new nature, the truth is everyone has to experience it for themselves.

Just like Moses, we can ask God to show us His glory.  Once we get to know the very heart of God, everything opposed to it becomes clear.  We begin to distinguish that which comes from our flesh.  Paul writes in 1 Cor. 15:31, “I die daily.”  What this means is that Paul identifies what is not from God in himself and practices turning from it daily.  It means lying down our pride, our knowledge, our rights, and believing God.

I hope you join me in pursuing this great news in the reality of our own life!

I Am That Friend

I believe God has put a beautiful, innate desire in all of us to be known, understood, and loved; to move through life with a companion. In His love He gives us wonderful earthly solutions for our comfort and enjoyment, however, He has made us especially to do life with Himself! Just like in the garden, God intends for us to walk with him. He wants to be with us, to help us, and to be our friend. He has always desired this kind of relationship with His creation, and He has given us His Spirit in order to accomplish this.

So often, may I even dare say usually, we believe people are the solution to this innate need. We look for a friend or spouse or some other relationship to be our everything. While these people can be a great source of temporary happiness and comfort, it doesn't take long for the newly married wife or husband to realize fulfillment isn't found in marriage.  All it takes is the disappointment and heartbreak of one broken friendship to cause us to realize friends aren't the ultimate answer to this desire either.  

For me it was my friendships.  I have a great appreciation for friends and seek deep, meaningful relationships.  I was also carrying loneliness at that time, which caused me to have an inexplicable desire for a full-time buddy.  I quickly understood I could not expect my husband to fill this role, so I set my sights on the mythological idea of a best friend that our culture pushes.  As I searched for this person, God gently warned me not to seek idols, that what I was looking for was Him.  My response was, "Yeah, I know, I know.  But I need someone here, this is essential to my happiness."

So He let me go.  In His love for me he allowed me to pursue a friendship with a woman that I thought was my everything.  We talked daily and our children became good friends.  For two years I enjoyed her friendship and enjoyed hanging out with her friends while our children played.  Life was perfect.  Almost.  The relationship was riddled with fear of loss and was hard work to maintain.  I became confused about my priorities.  I was allowing her to control me, acting to please her instead of God.  I had troubles speaking the truth because I was afraid she would be offended.  I did all I could to ensure the relationship was unharmed, which actually caused it to become increasingly unhealthy.

Then it happened.  God was calling me into closer relationship with Him and I could no longer ignore Him.  He called me to speak the truth in love to her; I couldn't remain silent any longer.  I wasn't being honest with her about who I am.  I lovingly shared my heart.  To my utter disbelief, she hardened her heart and decided we could no longer be friends.  The rejection was crushing.

She was true to her word and did her best to push me out of her life.  She forbade our children from playing, and made it impossible for my daughter to continue to be a part of her group of friends.

In my pain I ran to God.  He embraced me and allowed the hard times to purify me.  He washed my thoughts with His own, replacing the lies I was believing about myself with the truth.  I learned what He meant when He said, "I am that friend you are looking for."  You see, His Spirit is with us all the time.  He's speaking to us regularly, but sometimes the idols in our life cause His voice to be distorted, or even unrecognizable.  My desire for a full-time buddy is fulfilled by Him, it doesn't get any better than Him!  He wants to laugh with us, have a good time, and love us like no one on earth can love us.  He desires to council us through our hard times and to give us insight and wisdom.  He wants to help us in our everyday life.  He wants to work with us.  The key is to put down our agenda and our idols, and listen.  If we obey His voice, our lives will rise above our earthly condition- this existence that is riddled with the consequence of sin.  Jesus took sin, and saved us from it's burden.  Jesus tore down the veil between heaven and earth.  Our lives can be the recipient and the conduit for God's Kingdom here and now.  

Is there a relationship that deeply disappoints you? Is there someone that isn't meeting your expectations? Perhaps a friend, a husband, a sister or daughter? Perhaps this is where God wants to break through to you. Perhaps this is the launch pad through which God wants to reveal Himself. Let God speak to you about His desire for relationship in your life.

The Heart of Man

If we understand what is at the core of every man in his flesh, it will help us to understand exactly what it is that God is calling us to turn from.  It is helpful to understand what went wrong in order to better understand our new heart and what we are to do.

This brings us all the way back to the Tree of Knowledge in the garden of Eden.  Have you ever pondered what was so wrong about knowing right from wrong?  It seems to me that wisdom and discernment are some of the most precious gifts we receive from God.  So what went wrong?

Previous to the fall, Adam and Eve got everything they had from God; including all knowledge.  When they took knowledge for their own, it created a struggle within as they could now see for themselves the difference of good from evil.  Their eyes opened, and they acted upon their own knowledge.  In that moment, they became their own god and judged for themselves what was good and what was not good.  Similar to the Israelites demanding Samuel to give them a king, Adam and Eve rejected God as King and Daily Informant because they could see and act upon their knowledge.

This creates a problem for all Christians.  We are consistently challenged by our ability to judge in our flesh what is good and bad.  There is a constant temptation to take what we know and act on our own, without the Spirit of God.  He tells us that His thoughts are not ours, and He wants to inform us of His perspective.  This allows us to turn our own thoughts and desires to meet God’s will.  In the Old Testament, this information would come through a Prophet or the ephod, which was something the Priest wore in order to determine God’s will.  Today we have the Holy Spirit in us to inform us all day long!  This is just like the relationship Adam and Eve had with God before knowledge got in the way.  We have to be careful to receive all wisdom and discernment from Him about our circumstances, and not use our own knowledge to judge ourself and others.  (That was a free side note :)

Ok, let’s look at a man in the Bible to illustrate what this looks like in reality.  Saul was the anointed one to become Israel’s first king.  The Spirit of God came mightily upon Saul, and Samuel instructed him to do whatever he found to be done, and the Lord blessed Him.  God did what He said He would do and brought great deliverance to the Israelites through Saul.  It was a huge triumph for God and Saul in that day.

But pride crept in and tempted Saul to act on what he knew was good and right.  Saul had been instructed by God through Samuel to wait for Samuel in Gilgal.  Saul waited the seven long days.  Fear surrounded him as the humungous Philistine garrison loomed on the battlefield.  The Israelites were terrified and fled.  Against the Word of the Lord, Saul went ahead and made the burnt offering himself.  Right after the offering was made, Samuel arrived and questioned him.  In defense Saul said, “Because I saw that the people were scattering from me, and that you did not come within the days appointed, and that the Philistines were assembled at Michmash, I thought, The Philistines will come down now upon me to Gilgal, and I have not made the supplication to the Lord.  So I forced myself to offer a burnt offering.” (1 Sam 13:11-12)

You know, fear doesn’t sound like such a bad thing until it causes you to run ahead and rely on yourself.  The spirit of fear and pride hang out together.  One encourages the other.  Can you hear Saul’s self justification?  He totally went against the Lord.  He did his own thing based on the knowledge he had about God and what he believed to be right.  In another instance Saul had the guts to say to Samuel that he had “obeyed the voice of the Lord and have gone the way which the Lord sent me.”  Samuel rebuked Saul and said, “Has the Lord as great a delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the Lord?  Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams.” (1 Sam 15:22)  In other words, “you make your sacrifices based on your own knowledge and will.  I’m more concerned about you obeying my voice than following any set rules about religion.  I am God, not you.”  This is how knowledge of good and evil causes us to stumble: when knowledge leads us to desire to be like God and judge for ourself.

We would be fools to think we aren’t the same way.  We take what we know about the Bible or what we have been taught and run in our own effort without even consulting God to see if it is His will.  We think we know what is good and instead of waiting on His Spirit, we run ahead and do what we want.  And, if we are being honest with ourself, we shake our fist at God when it doesn’t work out.  Like Saul, we are self-righteous in our own way and will justify our actions, sometimes even with Bible verses.

So what is God looking for?  Enter David... a man after God’s own heart.  When we believe Jesus for our salvation, God gives us a new, soft heart.  This heart is sensitive to the Holy Spirit and can sense His promptings and will naturally obey His will.  David spent years and years leaning into the character of God.  He hung out with God and got to know Him as a friend.  He took his fear to God, and listened for His answer.  He let God inform him about his life and circumstances.  David’s heart became like God’s heart as he followed Him through the bends and turns, ups and downs of life.  One of the things I love about the Psalms is that you hear so many emotions, and you hear how God informs and changes those emotions when David comes to Him.  There may be a couple of Psalms when David pours out his natural, human emotions about his circumstances, but then you have these magnificent Psalms elevating God as Supreme Power.  God takes his fear, disappointment, anger and teaches David to see from His perspective.  The natural response is deep felt, genuine praise and adoration.  God personally touches David’s heart and heals the offense.  In this way, David’s heart remains soft, alive, and responsive to the Holy Spirit.

I don’t know about you, but this sounds like really good news to me.  I like the idea of following God innocently like a sheep follows the shepherd.  Having carried pride and self-righteousness, I can personally attest to the burden it brings.  The yoke of responsibility is so heavy it crushes, whereas the yoke of God is light and delightful.  We still live in the mess of this world, but we see beyond the chaos.  Faith and hope become our driving force, and we are. . . truly happy.  Yes, the yoke of God is one of fulfillment, contentment, and smiles!  :)